WOW. Four years since my last post. I don't know where to start or what to share with you. But here I am. I have lots of new topics and not sure if I should be posting here or at the Dear BasTorah blog. I am thinking of starting here and kicking this off first.

On an email I received or was it a comment, I forget, a poster commented that her husband had met this women who is the same age as him and they had a lot in common. Her husband took to her and started discussing things with her that he stopped discussing with his wife. It was a platonic relationship, where he just found someone to talk to. It didn't help that she was stunning as well...and the wife felt that he was "cheating" on her. Not sexually. That she was sure about. But emotionally, she felt that he was cheating on their marriage, and gave him an ultimatum. The wife or the girl-friend. I don't know what happened.

But that is not the first time I had heard that. I have also heard that from a different couple. The wife complained that he was cheating on her with someone he met. She would over hear his whispers to the other person on the phone. When questioned, he said that the marriage was tense, and he found someone to talk to. He was no way sleeping with her. He just found someone to listen to him. To comfort him. To understand him. The wife here felt cheated on.

My question to you readers, are you still reading? Why is it the woman who feels that the husband is emotionally cheating on the wife? Why don't men feel that way? Why do men feel that it is okay to have conversations and share things with other females what they don't share with their wife? Is it just a female perspective on things? I guess the old question is, can a boy and a girl just have a platonic relationship? Who is right and who is wrong? Why does the wife feel like it is cheating, but the men do not?

Discuss.