Enough is Enough

I know this topic was covered already but this keeps coming up in conversations with people.

Sorry men this is for us women.

When you get your period, how do you feel? How many of us are regular? How many can say they enjoy getting it, or don't mind it? My friends have all agreed on the hating the period thing. They hate the the actual bleeding. They hate all the halachos that go with being a niddah and find it more and more degrading. The mikvah going is annoying and no one really wants to sit in a bath and clean their body from head to toe. Why are we still using such old archaic laws where things are so very different than when they were back then. And if I recall correctly, over the years they added things and are now called halachos. Why can't we in this generation add things and make that halacha?!

Halachos to change regarding Niddah.

1.You can pass things to one another while being a niddah. Passing doesn't really cause one to get very horny, therefore one can pass every day items to one another and not announce to the world that you are bleeding.

2. Bedikahs shall only be done on the first day and the last day. Why are we fingering ourselves when we cannot have sex.

3. The color is red or brown. Any other color, you are not a niddah.

4. If you happen to have a gyno check up and he makes you bleed or anything else that causes some blood but is not your period, you are not a niddah.

5. If you stop feeling the flow of blood but still seem to be spotting, you can still count your seven clean days.

6. You do not need to cut your nails that short nor your hair.

Basically we are fed up with the niddah aspect of this religion of ours. What do the men get? They can't have sex for 12+ days. They don't want it either. Figure out how to boycott or find a way that what was changed years back should not be applied to this day of age.

disclaimer: the above are thoughts not actual halacha!

Contribution from a Reader, Let's hear it

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