Look or Loook

Don’t shoot when I generalize, but most men will take note of a pretty woman walking by. They will take a second look and check her out. Finito. They continue on their way. I don’t call that cheating and wrong. It is only human for them to take a look. To sneak a peek. I would think there would be something wrong if they didn’t notice her. A man who tells you he didn’t notice the “hot” woman walking by is a liar.

But there is a difference in the looking. There is the quick glance and checking her out. And then there is the long-glance that keeps checking her out. A quick second is normal. It is fine. It is nothing for the wife to go crazy over. But the ones where they give her another look, and then another, those are the ones are more disconcerting. That look is something to worry about. That look sends off warning bells to the wife that there is something else going on.

We are human. We are normal. God created us this way. Men appreciate when a female is dressed nicely. When she is dressed provocative. When she is just plain sexy, (nothing plain about being sexy). Men like to look. They like to take in the views. Enjoy the scenery. And when pretty women are there, they are an added bonus.

I wouldn’t worry over the typical male who glances at a scantly dressed young lady. I would also take a double take if I see a model walk by. I would also glance back if I saw a good looking male walk by. Again, I am only looking and enjoying the scenery. The issue gets trickier when the look gets to be a loook. That the look is long and drawn out. That the look has a reflection on his face. That he is thinking too much into her than he should be. That is when it is wrong. Don’t yell at the husband for doing what he is expected to do. Don’t torment him if he looks. Just watch out if he really takes a good look at her and has another look on his face.

I always loved the expression “you can look but you cannot touch”. You might not appreciate it, or better yet, you don’t understand how I as a wife can say that. You see, I understand that it is normal for men to look. I understand the nature. I appreciate it. So go ahead, go look. But don’t touch. Once there is touching, things have gone too far. Looking does not always bring you to touching.

Sexual Favors

Sexual Favors.

What’s the difference between making love and having sex? I know there has been at least one comment asked in this regard. The comment asked why do we call it having sex and not making love to our spouse? This got me thinking. Why indeed, do we not refer to it as making love? We always refer to it as not have had sex or my wife doesn’t like to have sex, or, it has been a long time since I had sex.

What ever happened to the word love? Do we forget this little L word in our relationship with our spouse? Is this the reason why we are not getting any? If we forget the LOVE word, then that will answer the many questions regarding bedroom life. If you do not love or make love with your spouse, how do you expect to get any?

Love is not a bad word. You say in the Jewish dating lifestyle, the choson and kallah do not really love one another. Fine. The love they have now is not the same love they will have in five years nor will that love be the same in ten, twenty, etc years later. Each year that we live together with another person, our love for that person grows. It expands. It grows. There is no such thing as too much love. You cannot love a person too much and you never run out of love.

We all know that the love that we have can sometimes hurt us when the spouse doesn’t live up to the expectations that we have. We all have expectations. We have wants and desires. We all want it to be met. Whether it is in the real world or your world you strive for the best. Sometimes we just slack off and don’t make it. We are letting someone else down and many times without realizing it we are actually hurting someone we love.

When half of a married couple does something wrong or something that is different, yet enjoyable for him/her, it makes that person selfish if he/she doesn’t think of his/her spouse. If you do something and you don’t think about your spouse you are being selfish and conceited. These can be major issues that will affect your spouse, or even little ones that you think are little when reality is that your spouse thinks differently.

Be careful how you act and react to things. There is the blaming game but why bother with it? It will just go around and around. Try to be (wo) man enough and accept it and apologize for what was done. Think about it and realize that there has to be a way that you can enjoy doing something unique that you have not done before without hurting your spouse

I started this off as sexual favors. I didn’t get to it. I guess my topic does not apply to what I wanted to write about. Next time you want sex from your spouse. Next time you want a favor, a sexual favor, please make sure to include love. No, I don’t mean the love you feel when you are loving it, I mean the love you give while receiving. The love you are giving to your husband or wife and remember what that feels like. Remember is not plain “I want sex tonight” it is “let’s make love tonight”. Try that line, and see a difference.

Today

Shocked to hear what happened today in London.

I know I don't do politics, but I have some readers who are from London.

Imagine, one night you are celebrating the winnings of having the Olympics in your home town, and the next morning you wake up to a bomb in the underground.

Two opposite extremes.

One happy.
One sad.

Hope you all have your loved ones with you as you prepare to deal with this blow.