Look or Loook

Don’t shoot when I generalize, but most men will take note of a pretty woman walking by. They will take a second look and check her out. Finito. They continue on their way. I don’t call that cheating and wrong. It is only human for them to take a look. To sneak a peek. I would think there would be something wrong if they didn’t notice her. A man who tells you he didn’t notice the “hot” woman walking by is a liar.

But there is a difference in the looking. There is the quick glance and checking her out. And then there is the long-glance that keeps checking her out. A quick second is normal. It is fine. It is nothing for the wife to go crazy over. But the ones where they give her another look, and then another, those are the ones are more disconcerting. That look is something to worry about. That look sends off warning bells to the wife that there is something else going on.

We are human. We are normal. God created us this way. Men appreciate when a female is dressed nicely. When she is dressed provocative. When she is just plain sexy, (nothing plain about being sexy). Men like to look. They like to take in the views. Enjoy the scenery. And when pretty women are there, they are an added bonus.

I wouldn’t worry over the typical male who glances at a scantly dressed young lady. I would also take a double take if I see a model walk by. I would also glance back if I saw a good looking male walk by. Again, I am only looking and enjoying the scenery. The issue gets trickier when the look gets to be a loook. That the look is long and drawn out. That the look has a reflection on his face. That he is thinking too much into her than he should be. That is when it is wrong. Don’t yell at the husband for doing what he is expected to do. Don’t torment him if he looks. Just watch out if he really takes a good look at her and has another look on his face.

I always loved the expression “you can look but you cannot touch”. You might not appreciate it, or better yet, you don’t understand how I as a wife can say that. You see, I understand that it is normal for men to look. I understand the nature. I appreciate it. So go ahead, go look. But don’t touch. Once there is touching, things have gone too far. Looking does not always bring you to touching.