I Love You

Ever get into a fight with your spouse? Do the words I love you flow freely from you afterwards? Has a fight caused you to think what those words really mean and make you think twice the next time you murmur them?

Why after a fight or after an occurrence do we spend the time to think about the relationship we are in? During good times we tend not to think about the negative aspect of it and brush it under the proverbial rug. The fights and arguments and the negative words that were spoken oh so recently seem to disappear and not surface. We forget them. We brush them aside. We bury them until…until the next fight. The next blow up.

We say I love you to our spouses all the time. Or do you? Do you really mean the words or is it a catch phrase, something you must say to make peace. To make things go back to happy go lucky times? Are the words merely said to appease the person but in our hearts of hearts it is not really what you want to say. You have other feelings.

When one looks at his/her spouse and doesn’t feel anything inside and has no interest in relations with their other half, what is the next step? How long does it take to smell the coffee and figure out that life is not going anywhere. That the long you don’t talk the harder it will to talk? The longer you don’t share the same bed, the harder it will to share a bed together. The longer you say bitter words or no words, the harder it will to be civil and romantic to one another. When is it time for the couples to get a reality check in life? When should outside influences start butting in and offering their two cents and solutions? At what point is it too late to do anything about it.

The next time you say I love you to your wife or husband, think about it. Think whether you really mean it. Think what the words mean to you and to the one who you are saying it to. Does the recipient feel the same way? Does the recipient define those words the same way you do? Are you both on the same page in the chapter in life?

I love you.

Am I Really This Popular?

Can someone care to explain to me how I became the venting board for choson's blog? Yes, I have posted a few comments, but as you have realized by now, mine have been deleted, and what has not been deleted by him, has been deleted by me.

I agree that you can have control over your blog. That those who disagree with you should not hurt your image and you can delete the comments. I believe that if the comments are not to your par you can delete…but then you will be left with none.

In a true democratic society the little people have a say as well. In my blog you have a say and I let almost any and every thing through. You can put me down. You can blame things on me and you can hate me. If you are too rough with me, I will then put my foot down. But otherwise, you can say your piece and vent.

So tell me dear readers, how in the world did I get hooked up with being the venting board for his blog? What have I done that make you come running here to vent? Is it because I feel that you are entitled to your point of view? That it is not my way or the highway? Please feel free to answer.

As for the blog…I cannot respond to a blog that deletes the comments for the slightest difference of opinion. Granted some of my comments have been PG-13, but if I toned it down…I wouldn’t be able to make my point. Politeness doesn’t come so easily when people are dense and incoherent. But that is for another topic.

My dear readers, feel free to comment to vent and do what you wish here Remember, I do have the final say, and if you step over the line…I will delete.