My Thoughts for Now

I apologize for not being a good blogger. I have been busy responding to my emails and have taken the blogging personal and becoming a sex therapist and kallah teacher based on my previous emails. I therefore started a new blog, dearbastorah.blogspot.com and will address some of the issues I have been getting via email.

My other topics seem to have disappeared. I could not get involved in writing a good piece of work. I tried to think of different topics but when I thought I had a good topic, it was stolen and already written by someone else.

My latest topic that I was planning on writing about before Shlomy took it, was on Cheating. Is this cheating? Is this flirting? Are we are treading water and will soon run out of breath and drown? Are we just burying ourselves deeper and deeper and not even realizing how low we have sunken? It says that God took us out of Egypt at the right time. Had we stayed there any longer, we would have been lost spiritually. Is this the case now? How much father can we go?
On the other hand, are we really worse than previous generation? We all have our temptations now. There really is nothing new under the sun. What we think are original problems, are not really original. We are just repeating them. Granted, in the days before yore we didn’t have Internet but we did have other things that we don’t have now. It is the concept, and that has not changed. When did it become okay to have personal conversations with members of the opposite gender? When was it ever a problem? According to who is it a problem?

We all know our limits. Some have fewer limits than others. Some are changing it as they go along. That can lead to trouble. Set yourself a limit. If you stick with it, you should be fine. Be realistic. If you see yourself falling, stop the fall before you get hurt and actually fall real hard. Once you start it is harder to stop it.

My next issue of complaint that someone mentioned to me is regarding how the wife is told to be there for her husband no matter what. If she is tired, she should take a nap prior to going to sleep, so that the two can go to bed together. Otherwise, her man can end up looking elsewhere. Please explain this to me. Why are we teaching girls that her husband will look for sex elsewhere? Are we approving this behavior? Do we allow this behavior? If I translate that, it means that if we do not satisfy our husband, he has the right to go elsewhere. Now that is wrong. It should not be said that way. Why are they allowed, why are they being given the green light to find what they can’t get at home somewhere else? Why is it that the wife is unable to do such thing? That they don’t tell the boys that if they do not satisfy the wife, she will look elsewhere and make it acceptable to do that.

That is my repeat gripe for you readers today. I did not forget you. I will come up with a good topic, and feel free to email me and suggest something.